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Be her LEADER – Equality is a LIE. It doesn’t EXIST. Men and women are NOT equal. They are NOT the same. MOST of relationship issues arise from THIS belief that men and women are the same – that they THINK and BEHAVE the same way. NOPE. Women want a LEADER. A man who takes the LEAD WITHOUT having told to do so. What does it mean to be her Leader? The way a parent LEADS a child. That you take MOST of the decisions, and ALL of the major ones. Where are you taking her for a date, where are you going for a vacation, which city do you want to settle in, where should you buy a house – just some of the examples where YOU as a MAN need to take the LEAD and take a decision. Women HATE having to take decisions, but they LIKE THINKING they have the POWER to take them. If you want to learn how to balance both SMOOTHLY, sign up for one of our sessions, and we’ll notify you when the next slot opens up! What being a Leader DOES NOT MEAN – Being a leader does NOT mean being a tyrant who NEVER listens to anybody else. You can take your girl’s inputs, give them DUE consideration, and then take a decision. It does not have to be what she wants – it NEEDS to be what YOU think is RIGHT. Your girl may FRET initially if she doesn’t like what you decide – but will come to respect you in the long run. (e.g. turning down her demand to go on a foreign holiday when your budget does not allow it) You two are NOT partners. You are in a superior – subordinate relationship. You are the Captain – she is NOT your co-captain – she is your flight attendant. Don’t take her TOO seriously – Women say a LOT of things. Most of them are not to be taken at face value. She speaks her emotions. And her emotions are born out of her hormones. And her hormones fluctuate DAILY. Some days, she wants NOTHING to do with you, other days she can’t get enough of you, some days she is mad at you for NO reason, still other days she is lovey-dovey. If you try and talk to her about this, you will lose. Women do not argue within reason. They will emotionally reframe the argument and YOU WILL LOSE. PRO – TIP: Know her menstrual cycle – You will be able to predict WHEN she is horny, when her mood will be off, etc. An ex of mine used to ROUTINELY start fights when her exams and her menses co-incided. So, do not take her so seriously ALL the time. e.g. Her: I hate you! You: I hate you too (with a smile and wink) Her: You NEVER listen to me! You: Huh? (cup your ear and make an exaggerated motion of trying to hear what she is saying) Her: I’m LEAVING you! You: Thank God! My NEXT girlfriend is TIRED of waiting! Change her MOOD, not her MIND – – there are going to be times when you DO fcuk up or she IS REALLY mad at you for WHATEVER reason. Most men make the mistake of talking to a girl the SAME way they would try and calm things down with a man- by talking LOGICALLY. Women are not the same as Men. They DO NOT respond well to LOGIC, especially when they are emotional. So don’t try to CHANGE her MIND Change her MOOD. Chaser vs Chasee – There is a CHASER in every relation, and a CHASEE. One party ALWAYS care MORE about the other. You as a man need to be the one who cares LESS Why? Because women are HYPERGAMOUS. Meaning they want a man who is BETTER than them. And when they are the ones CHASING the man for most of the relationship, they are satisfied that they are with someone BETTER than, cuz otherwise, the man would be chasing. DO NOT try to make her HAPPY – The EASIEST way to make a women UNHAPPY, is to give her everything she wants. Yes, you read that right. Saying NO – You must have seen men who bend over backwards to make their girl/wife HAPPY. The man takes her on foreign holidays, buys her luxury cars, sprawling mansions, haute couture, teaches the kids, does the laundry – she says it, he does it – only for the woman to grow EVEN MORE IRRITATED with the man. That is because she is TESTING the man by making increasingly outrageous demands. She WANTS him to say NO. Only he doesn’t and digs himself DEEPER into a pit of despair which will end with…